A new perspective Inspired by Eileen's comment Repost from 2009

"Guilt is a tool of the ego"

I must thank Eileen for the column which inspired this one where she mentioned that she was doing her best at the moment.

I would expand this to say we all are all the time. This column is the expansion of that thought. Unfortunately most of us dont take credit for doing our best but buy into critics judgement that we are not. One of those critic's is our own ego that hopes to retain control thru this ploy of assigning guilt. ____________________________________________________________________________

The role Guilt plays in the philosophy of the Jewish religion as it permeates into their daily life is well known..

Since they are the traditional inheritors of the Old Testament and as a group extremely sensitive to its contents, transgressions get quick attention as guilt. Self judgement and subsequent guilt are however not limited to strictly religious issues.

The rest of us non-Jews for the most part , especially adherants to the New Testament, also have this penchant for judging self and others as we attempt to assign guilt as a reason for life's problems.

Let's consider a new approach.

If all factors are considered we are doing the best we can all the time. As factors change we adjust. The 'if only' crowd disagrees claiming if only he or she did this or that the outcome would have been better.

How do they know that for certain? Are they aware of all factors including ones ability and mental state?

I was once invited into a group that I was told by it's leader or host that it only two rules that needed to be followed.

One day in a private conversation with the leader I was strongly criticized for something that indicated that I had a long way to go to catch up to that person's expectations. Unfortunately this person was insensitive to my mental state and the struggle I was experiencing just to survive as well as I did.

I was doing the best I could under conditions only I was priviy to and did not choose to offer excuses for my behavior or make the conditions public...

I was being judged contrary to the rules I had been presented with as unwritten ones ruled the day.

I made the necessary decision to avoid any recurrance of the incident.

The person criticizing me claimed some Biblical familiarity yet the 'Judge not' passage didnt seem to be part of this familiarity.

In life as in law it is impossible not to judge but are the judgements done to stated standards? In law a legal code comprises of the standards of social culture..

In life that standard can be very nebulous and difficult to justify.

© 2009 albert vallone (albert 1) - 9/21/13

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