AND NOW, A PERSONAL UPDATE FOR INTERESTED PARTIES
by Michael Christenson
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# 1. 1/2/10 6:36 PM by John The Sophomore
 I enjoyed your prose.
Someone once said, "'Tis better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all." and then I shot him in the foot. Just kiddin'. Old Marine joke. Means don't mess with "IT" when it happens.
They say time heals all wounds. But I say the scars always remain, and pain can come again, with any evening rain.
Thanx John
From Alfred Lord Tennyson's poem In Memoriam:27, 1850:
I hold it true, whate'er befall; I feel it, when I sorrow most; 'Tis better to have loved and lost Than never to have loved at all. Editor's Note: Tennyson was full of it.
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# 2. 1/2/10 6:37 PM by John The Sophomore
A BEAUTIFUL LETTER -just to share by 3D Divine Deadbeat Dad ("alleged") Editor's Note: Thanks John.
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# 3. 1/2/10 7:46 PM by Emotionalwave
I am voyeuristic enough to enjoy reading about other people's lives. You have had an interesting go of it. I can feel your pain over lost love. Just don't close your heart to the possibility of love happening again. Editor's Note: Thank you EW.
My jar of cremated heart-ashes does not dare expose itself, or any other, to this torment again.
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# 4. 1/2/10 8:14 PM by Peter Lounsbury
It was 12 years ago yesterday that my wife left me. I hated, and I mean HATED New Years Eve ever since. It was nothing but a reminder of the torrent of emotions that killed something inside me that day. It killed me until I became numb, and welcomed the numbness despite the fact that it meant that the best part of me died when my love left me.
I gave up even hoping to be the person I once was, and got busy with life until I forgot so well that I forgot why I was trying to forget. Nothing anyone can say to you now will help Michael, but you will survive. You'll never be the same, but you'll survive.
Then, out of nowhere and certainly not on purpose, I met my bride to be. She taught me how to laugh again, love again and be myself again. She restored my faith in love itself. But, she didn't come along until I was able to be loved again, and I know now that God knew exactly what He was doing. You see the person that I thought I loved so much was me Michael. I loved her, but she didn't love me back. The day we parted wasn't the lie, it was the day we met. Then, God brought someone into my life that loved me. Really loved me. Finally, now I get it. I get it because God got me when I wasn't able to.
If I'm wrong about the similarity here, I am thankfully wrong then. If you're going through what I went went through, it sucks and anyone who tells you different is a liar. If on the other hand I am wrong, you'll soon recover and you'll be okay in short order. If I am right, then all I can say to console is that the sooner you see yourself as God sees you, the sooner you will be able to move on become who He demands that you must be. And when it comes to joining yourself with a women, God chooses better than we can because we lie to ourselves.
You don't have to post this if you don't want to Michael. It was meant for you to read, and I require no response. It's just a note from a man to a man who knows what that broken heart feels like and wants to be honest with you when most of the world wont. If you want to respond that's cool too. This is for you my brother, not me.
PS - This was the first New Years Eve I've celebrated since then, and it was good to be normal again with a woman who loves me. Honestly, it was just another day with my sweetie, but it took me 12 years for it to be just another day, and I am thankful for that. Editor's Note: Thank you Peter. She whom I love was herself a restorer of love and hope. Which makes it harder to take out another loan of hope. Anyway thanks again for sharing your story and encouraging words.
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# 5. 1/2/10 11:11 PM by Grandma
I enjoyed your update--I've wondered how you were doing. I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish I could say something to comfort you; I can't. Comfort will have to come from within, and you will recognize it when it comes. It likely won't come all at once, either. You are in my prayers. Editor's Note: Comfort from within can never be enough, either. Comfort must, and only can, come by complete restoration of dashed hopes.
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# 6. 1/3/10 9:17 PM by mk
Thanks for filling us in on the life of Mike...or rather "professor mike" Editor's Note: Thank you for your touching off-site email.
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