CREMATION VS. BURIAL
by Just Lynne

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# 1. 10/13/15 9:11 PM by BF
My brother and I had our father cremated, and my late partner's children had their father cremated as well.

In my father's case, because of the particular circumstances surrounding his death, he was cremated shortly after, and for several months I held onto his cremains in a very pretty rosewood box provided by my brother. Because Dad's life-long avocation was woodworking, this was fitting; even more so, the rosewood box sat on my beautiful mahogany-cased piano for those months.

I wish to add here that my dear friend Albert stood next to me during Dad's final days, and for his many kindnesses to me during those tumultuous days I am forever grateful.

My late partner's attitude toward death was most unsentimental as he had expressed many times that he didn't give one royal cr@p about ceremony surrounding his own passing. We, of course, followed his wishes to the extent that he had no ceremony save for a small group of family and friends sharing our memories of him at a very informal gathering.

In both instances, the passing of each man, though disparate, was acknowledged in the fashion best for him and his family, and I am pleased that that opportunity existed.

Editor's Note: Circumstances can vary, so that's why I'm glad nobody else's death is up to me and I don't have to choose. Thanks, BF.



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# 2. 10/15/15 4:52 PM by Mary - Livonia
thumbsup.gif I enjoyed your column and agree with you that the individual should have their choice of deterrent when their time comes. Several of my family members were cremated. At first I thought it was terrible to do but since then in seeing both ways being done I would prefer cremation and be able to keep or bury the urn of ashes however the survivors would want to do. I wish everyone could put their choices in writing so when their time comes their survivors would follow their wishes.

Editor's Note: Now that I'm getting used to the fact that my friend was cremated, Mary, I am starting to lean that way. As long as I knew that it wouldn't affect my hopes for eternal life, I can't really see what difference it would make. I guess I agree with Albert, for once!



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# 3. 10/16/15 1:19 PM by deep water
my wife had the task of picking up her brothers remains in California. They did a cremation, and we have brother Denny right in our living room with us.

I think I prefer someone else deciding, but the graveyard ritual is not for me.

Editor's Note: After I read what Albert said about our body being just a shell that housed our souls, I am leaning more towards cremation than I had been.



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# 4. 10/16/15 1:20 PM by deep water
my wife had the task of picking up her brothers remains in California. They did a cremation, and we have brother Denny right in our living room with us.

I think I prefer someone else deciding, but the graveyard ritual is not for me.




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